At the moment, we have one child.
Every day, we learn more about his personality and character. Yet, just when we think we’ve figured him out, we’ll hang out with a group of other children, and he’s suddenly a very different child.Initially, he might be a little more introverted until he’s assessed the situation. Then, 5 seconds later, he wants to hold their hands, and have them play “chase” or “hiding” or some other random game that involves a ball, toy cars, and lots of noise.
I love visiting with friends who have children. I don’t call these play dates (honestly, I’m really opposed to that word and the very child-centric nature of the concept)–rather, these are get-togethers with other friends who just happen to have children.
During these get-togethers, I’ve seen my son in a different light. It’s as though a different shade of his personality shines through when paired with other children. Around babies, he gently caresses them and showers them with loving hugs and kisses.
I’m suddenly a puddle on the floor and trying to figure out when we can adopt another child so he can get here by next week.
When he’s around children closer to his age, he’s quick to share his toys with them. Although, I may hear him yelp an occasional “MINE!”, he usually responds by handing over everything he holds most dear so others can enjoy the pleasure of his favorite toys, too.If he knows other children are coming over to play, he will talk about it all. day. long. In fact, he’ll only dabble at his meals because he is justSOexcitedhecan’tstandit! I have to remember to delay the news until AFTER he’s had lunch.
If there’s a sweet girl that’s close to his age. He’ll want to hold her hand and announce the fact that he’s holding her hand as they walk around our home. If her slightly older brother is around, my son will also want to walk around holding his hand, too.
Calvin needs a younger sibling. He’d be a fantastic big brother, and I can’t wait to see how he’ll grow in selflessness, generosity, kindness, and compassion when he’ll have someone else with whom to share his favorite things 24/7.
We’re talking and praying more frequently about adopting a child, and we’re asking ourselves several questions as we contemplate this process: Domestic or international? How much will it cost? How long do we need to save up for the initial expenses? What requirements must we fulfill? What are the most sound, legitimate, and efficient adoption agencies? What countries have the fastest (and slowest) adoption processes?
YOUR TURN: Have you considered adoption/in the process of adoption? What are your recommendations for domestic or international adoption agencies?